Marathon Man finishes final race, with valor

October 15, 2008 by susan

On October 14 at 5 p.m. Barb posted the entry on David's Caring Bridge site that we never wanted to read. There are no words to soften this blow.
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This is far and away the most heart-breaking communication of my life. All of it.
This afternoon, my marathon man lost the race. David died at 2:00, at home. We were with him when he died. I am hoping, praying that I may have been some small part of whispering him across the bridge from here to there. I will never know.
David's family and mine have been absolutely wonderful in their caring presence and great love for David, for each other, and for me.
When I can bear to, I will write more. For now, please pray my man into eternal freedom from pain and suffering. That you can do if you will.
Barb

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perhansa (not verified) | October 17, 2008 - 12:25pm

Barb:
You have my deepest sympathy and thoughts. My mother died at home of cancer four years ago and I spent the final two nights of her life sleeping in the same room with her as she went. The loss is terrible, but I found comfort in that she was at home with her kin and the people who loved her. I hope that was true for you. I'm truly sorry for your loss and sorrow.

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barbara says (not verified) | October 17, 2008 - 1:22pm

(((perhansa!!!)))

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Anonymous (not verified) | October 17, 2008 - 5:09pm

Peace and blessings for you in you time of loss.

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Poet (not verified) | October 20, 2008 - 5:53pm

It's not exactly the same, but I had the chance to hold my mom's hand as she was somewhat spaced lout from the wonderful pain killers hospice provided to ease her passing. My own feelings were of gratitude for being there and helplessness at the inevitabiity of it all.

May you feel whatever you are feeling and be okay with it. May you have empathetic friends who allow you to be angry, hurt, weepy, or whatever else you need to be without judging you.

May you know that David is no longer feeling any pain or suffering and awaits his resurrection from the sleep he now sleeps. May the sweetness of your fondest memories together blunt the bitter pain of this current seperation. .

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barbara says (not verified) | October 21, 2008 - 5:00pm

(((Poet!!!))) Now I understand what bereft really means.

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