Between Grief and Birth

October 14, 2008 by susan

The Clothes Line is sagging with heavy events and may be on leave for the next few days. Amidst the furor of this coming election, which feels like a life or death sort of election to many of us, Barb and I are dealing with -- well, life and death.
Read on.

First, the profoundly sad update from Barb, taken from the Caring Bridge site she maintained during David's year long battle with the cancer demon.
Today, we are coming to terms with the fact that we are losing our battle. David has slipped into a place of pain, labored breathing and then the medications required to hold those things at bay.

The house is filled with the voices of family and friends who are here to . . . just be here, I guess. The hospice nurse and the hospice chaplain were here and lent some sanity to an otherwise insane situation. None of this makes sense. All of it feels terrible.

Please send her your gentle thoughts and support in whatever way you can.

Second, at the other end of the spectrum, I am in Seattle with our two daughters, one of whom is due to give birth to twins any day. She's a small woman with a double beach-ball belly. As she says, a tug boat pushing a barge. She's uncomfortable and can barely walk, but the enormity of the gulf between my vigil and Barb's is not lost on me. Or any of us.

We'll be in touch.

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MLS (not verified) | October 14, 2008 - 7:29pm

To Barb, my soul weeps knowing the emotional
pain that you are feeling after this year long battle which you and David so bravely challenged. My loving thoughts and prayers are with you both.
To Susan, my very best wishes to your daughter, her husband but especially to you the expectant grandmom.


lilalia (not verified) | October 14, 2008 - 8:40pm

To Barbara and Susan, I send both of you my loving prayers for you during these times of transition and transformation, my wishes that you may continue believing in the innate beauty and wonder of life.