In memory of David

October 14, 2009 by barbara

barbara writes

I wrote about David in the tiny hours of this morning. It really was a sucky piece of over-the-top prose. I pitched it. Among all the things I learned from him, high on that list is simplicity. I have a long way to go if I’m to master it.

Remember the story I told at David’s memorial service last October? The first time we made dinner together at his house, he handed me a tiny foil-wrapped package that contained a tiny chunk of leftover baked chicken. I didn’t want to offend him, but I couldn’t help asking, “So, do you think this will be enough?” And his immediate response, without a smidgeon of judgment or shaming, was this: “Oh, I guess I always figure that whatever I have is enough.”

He lived his too-short life living simply. What started as necessity became a life value. He was a steward of the earth by every definition.

I miss his so-soft voice, his gentleness, his spectacular smile, his hunger for knowledge that he fed each day, his essential goodness. Those things and his quiet footfalls that sometimes brought us abruptly together at a corner in the house, eliciting a small scream from me. He’d smile and say something like, “Hi. I live here.” And then he’d hold me for a moment.

One year ago today, he died.

One year ago today, those of us who loved him lost an extraordinary man who kept such a low profile, few ever understood that about him.

Some say hearts heal. Maybe so.

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barbara | October 14, 2009 - 9:45am

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Peggy (not verified) | October 14, 2009 - 10:03pm

I hope your days are easier to embrace and that the memories of your dear David are vivid and of great comfort.


barbara | October 15, 2009 - 7:49am

Thanks, Peggy. You're very kind.


msmolly (not verified) | October 15, 2009 - 7:36am

Hugs, Barbara. He sounds like a wonderful human being. Wish I could have known him.


barbara | October 15, 2009 - 7:51am

Hey, girl, thanks. He was a good man. And as you and I both know about good men . . . . !!!


Barb (not verified) | October 15, 2009 - 8:25pm

May you find comfort in the coming days knowing what a treasure you are in the family.
Many days are difficult for those of who have been left behind. Know that I care, and send my love along the way.
You are special, your relationship was special, and nobody can take those times away.
Bless you and may God continue to hold you in His hands.


barbara | October 16, 2009 - 7:36am

Thanks, Barb. Left behind? True enough. I guess we're called to figure out how to move forward, honoring all along the way the one we loved and "lost." I know you know. Love you.